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Adjusting Your Expectations for Every Family Member

Of course, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting all of your children to do equally well in this world. It’s just another day in the life of a proud parent. Unfortunately, in most families, not every child is created equal.

Some children might even deal with a physical or mental disability, substance abuse problems, or something else equally challenging.

That being said, it is possible to adjust your expectations for every family member in your household… even the adults. Other parents are successfully achieving this feat. Read on to learn more.

Defining Your Children

When defining your children, it’s extremely important not to compare one child against another. It’s also vital that you don’t fit them into a mold. Every child on this planet is different. No two kids will ever be exactly alike for things like thoughts and achievements.

Take the time necessary to think about each of your children. Forget what their friends are doing, forget what you’ve heard online or on TV, and forget about what your spouse or partner says about them.

Ask yourself questions such as:

  • What are my child’s needs?
  • What is my child’s basic temperament?
  • Where is my child at regarding development?
  • What are my child’s accomplishments?

Once you have answers to these questions, you can zero in on your expectations. 

Discovering Uneven Development

Every child develops at a different rate. So, don’t automatically panic when you think one of your children is a bit behind their peers. In the vast majority of cases, these kids catch up eventually. It just takes a little more time.

Schedule a meeting with each of your child’s teachers. Ask if there’s anything you can do to help your child with any delays they might be experiencing.

Adjusting to Different Levels

Assessing each of your children’s “reasonable behavior” also means taking their capabilities into account. For example, if one of your children is afraid of heights, drive to your next vacation destination instead of flying. Don’t just automatically expect that child to get on an airplane and tolerate a long flight with no problem at all.

Always be tolerant of other people’s views when adjusting your expectations of family members. It’s not uncommon for your child’s other parent or adult relative to question your expectations.

If you disagree, sit down with that person and ask them why they feel as they do. Many times in situations like this, agreeing is easier than you think.

From reading this, is it time to adjust your expectations for your family members? If so, there’s no better time to get started. The change typically takes some time, so don’t expect it to happen overnight. But with due diligence, you’ll accomplish the task before you know it.

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